I guess I should explain why I'm starting this blog, so here's some insight into my life that not many people know and just some of my thoughts on the subject....
I'm the woman who has always looked on and seen how bad men get screwed on child support. Women seem to get married and have children with the view that if they decide to get divorced, it's okay because they know they'll have a paycheck coming in because of "child support". Women have no problem turning their children against their father, denying the father the right to SEE their child(ren), but still demand their "RIGHT" for "child support".
I'm the woman who has always thought this whole scenario is pure bullshit. When I got divorced the first time, I promised my ex that I'd give him $5,000.00 just to get him back on his feet after the divorce. Can you believe that when we went to court to have our divorce dissolved, he tried to take me for everything?? Even the JUDGE asked me if I still wanted to grant him the $5,000.00. Yes, he tried to screw me during the divorce proceedings, but I had promised and I don't go back on a promise. Did we have a child? Yes. Did I ask for child support? No, but the court insisted on it, so it was set at $20 a week (I'm talking 1986 here). Did he pay? No. Did I go after him in court to pay? No. I figured if he didn't want to be in her life, I didn't want to FORCE him to be in her life. Granted, when he remarried, his new wife insisted that he pay and they actually began seeing my daughter once in a while, which I didn't deny them, but still.... that was his new wife, not her father. (And I am VERY happy to say that even though said "new wife" is divorced from him now, she & said child are still friends and meet up once in a while for lunch or whatever!) While the ex hasn't EVER even seen any of his grandchildren - the oldest will soon be 13.
I've watched so many men cry because their ex-wives will NOT let them see their children. Then I've talked with those same children when they're older and they're SO bitter because they think that their dad didn't want to have anything to do with them (trust me, no matter how much you try to convince them, they WILL NOT change their minds on that point). They have NO idea how their dad suffered, not being able to see them because their mother was selfish enough to not let it happen (telling the children that their dad is dead, or their dad doesn't love them, their dad doesn't want anything to do with them, whatever... the child believes it because they have to. They have no PROOF that their dad has tried to get to them). They actually grew up not knowing that their father loved them and would have done practically anything to spend some time with them, but the law was against them and their hands were tied.
I, personally, think mothers like this are the lowest of the low. They keep going back to court, trying to get more & more money out of the father, while using the law to keep the father from seeing their child(ren). They're not looking after the child(ren)'s best interests. They're just looking for a bigger paycheck. Is it no wonder that men don't trust women???
Anyway, for some reason I felt I had to start this blog. A woman who totally believes that most men get screwed when they get divorced & children are involved... or even if they were never married but they had a child and are forced to pay support but not the rights to see their child...
I've always felt this way and always will.
I'm the woman who has always looked on and seen how bad men get screwed on child support. Women seem to get married and have children with the view that if they decide to get divorced, it's okay because they know they'll have a paycheck coming in because of "child support". Women have no problem turning their children against their father, denying the father the right to SEE their child(ren), but still demand their "RIGHT" for "child support".
I'm the woman who has always thought this whole scenario is pure bullshit. When I got divorced the first time, I promised my ex that I'd give him $5,000.00 just to get him back on his feet after the divorce. Can you believe that when we went to court to have our divorce dissolved, he tried to take me for everything?? Even the JUDGE asked me if I still wanted to grant him the $5,000.00. Yes, he tried to screw me during the divorce proceedings, but I had promised and I don't go back on a promise. Did we have a child? Yes. Did I ask for child support? No, but the court insisted on it, so it was set at $20 a week (I'm talking 1986 here). Did he pay? No. Did I go after him in court to pay? No. I figured if he didn't want to be in her life, I didn't want to FORCE him to be in her life. Granted, when he remarried, his new wife insisted that he pay and they actually began seeing my daughter once in a while, which I didn't deny them, but still.... that was his new wife, not her father. (And I am VERY happy to say that even though said "new wife" is divorced from him now, she & said child are still friends and meet up once in a while for lunch or whatever!) While the ex hasn't EVER even seen any of his grandchildren - the oldest will soon be 13.
I've watched so many men cry because their ex-wives will NOT let them see their children. Then I've talked with those same children when they're older and they're SO bitter because they think that their dad didn't want to have anything to do with them (trust me, no matter how much you try to convince them, they WILL NOT change their minds on that point). They have NO idea how their dad suffered, not being able to see them because their mother was selfish enough to not let it happen (telling the children that their dad is dead, or their dad doesn't love them, their dad doesn't want anything to do with them, whatever... the child believes it because they have to. They have no PROOF that their dad has tried to get to them). They actually grew up not knowing that their father loved them and would have done practically anything to spend some time with them, but the law was against them and their hands were tied.
I, personally, think mothers like this are the lowest of the low. They keep going back to court, trying to get more & more money out of the father, while using the law to keep the father from seeing their child(ren). They're not looking after the child(ren)'s best interests. They're just looking for a bigger paycheck. Is it no wonder that men don't trust women???
Anyway, for some reason I felt I had to start this blog. A woman who totally believes that most men get screwed when they get divorced & children are involved... or even if they were never married but they had a child and are forced to pay support but not the rights to see their child...
I've always felt this way and always will.
